5 Great Reasons For Being Curious

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They say “curiosity killed the cat” implying that it wouldn’t be good for you to be curious. Well now, there is a thought in urgent need of updating! If you think about it, throughout the history of mankind, curiosity always led to an advancement of some sort. Without curiosity we might still be living in trees. Who knows?

In a very simplified, black and white way we can divide people into two categories: On one end of the continuum are the close-minded who hold on to their beliefs and opinions, think usually that they are right, they like routine, and resist new ideas and the ‘unknown’. On the other end are the curious, those open to new experiences, the inquisitive, those who are excited by novelty and are bubbling with new ideas.

It’s not hard to see that I am biased towards the curious, isn’t it? So what are the advantages of being curious?

1. In jobs that require innovative approaches, out of the square thinking, a person with a high level of curiosity is just the right person to bring new ideas to the table.

2. Curios people also seem to look into matter deeper than others. They like learning, finding things out, or taking things apart to see how they work. Their passion in learning drives them to get to the bottom of things until their understanding is of exceptional depth.

3. Because curious people have the tendency to dig deeper into issues, they are good at solving puzzles and problem solving. Although getting easily bored with routine, they will stick with a problem until they have satisfied their thirst for discovery.

4. Another advantage of  curious people is the ease with which they deal with uncertainty. They don’t have things to be clear-cut and sorted. They can easily tolerate ambiguity and have little problems seeing things from a different perspective. In fact, they might even know clearly that there always is another perspective. They could have coined the phrase “This is one way of looking at it!” 

5. Most importantly, however, is curiosity in relationships. Yes, I now, it’s a particular bias and interest of mine. But bear with me here. Often couples, groups, or even nations have very distinct ideas and beliefs that may not be shared by ‘the other’ partner, groups, or nations. The close-minded, rigid, righteous might ‘dig’ in and start enforcing their opinion, trying to convince the other that they are wrong, might even judge them for their ‘errant’ way.

For a successful relationship however it is much more helpful to stay curious. Rather than judging and insisting on one’s own point of view, the curious stance is inquiring how the other person came to his/her point of view, what made them think the way they do, what is so important for them about their stance. With an attitude of curiosity we avoid the rigid demarcation line of ‘war fare’, be that in an intimate relationship or among larger groups. We learn about each other and open up the possibility of a more understanding, compassionate relationship and tolerance.

If you are interested to read more about how to have relationships built on the above values, you will find ample ideas and inspirations in my new book “Delicious Love Forever: Recipes for Lasting, Loving Relationships” available on Amazon.com.

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Be Still and Center in Prayer

Rainbow Over RuinsI am excited to host today my colleague Susan Sherayko, author of the book “Rainbow Over Ruins” in which she describes how she survived a natural disaster that altered her life. Thus her book is not just a good read but also a wonderful source of ‘how to cope with adversity and crisis’. It is her belief that everyone is creative and by using the creative thought process with its daily prescription for success, you can choose rainbows over ruins. If you change the way you think, you can turn disaster into opportunity and become the most successful person you desire to be.  Here is her blog post:

Be Still and Center in Prayer by Susan Sherayko

Several years ago, I left home for work in the morning just as I would on any other rainy day. However, I returned home to discover that a mudslide had come through my house, leaving a trail of mud and debris inside and around our home. It was not what I would ever have imagined happening to my husband and me. When all was said and done I describe the experience as life-altering.

There were no experts, no governmental advisors, or sources of information to help us figure it all out. Rather we were facing governmental fines for having rocks in our backyard. The financial impact was staggering. There was no insurance and we were liable for both the home we could no longer inhabit, as well as a home we rented while we found solutions.

I felt an intense fear in the pit of my stomach as we lived through it all. In my book Rainbows Over Ruins, I wrote about the story and one of the best ways I found to reduce and eliminate the elements of fear through the calming influence of Centering Prayer.

The aim of this meditative prayer technique is to minimize the mind’s conscious activity in order to open to pure consciousness. The method is simple: Think of one word of one or two syllables that you like (peace, love, father, mother, and grace are examples) and keep thinking that word in whatever form it takes.

When you become aware of some other thought pulling you away, return to the word you’ve chosen. Any number of ideas may cross the inner screen of your mind. You may be intrigued and want to explore such distractions, but instead, let them float by. Maintain this attitude for at least 20 minutes daily, a few times per Centering prayer is about stillness – about listening with your inner awareness without the obligation to respond or ask for anything.

In all the intense activities of our daily lives, we rarely find such moments of silence. In fact, unless we cultivate this state, we may find ourselves uncomfortable being quiet for any length of time. Where is the leader saying the words of prayer? Where is the ritual that fills the moments of ceremony? Where is the music? They are absent during centering prayer.

In the silent mind, insights from surrounding quantum consciousness may unfold gently, without force. Forcing would stop the creative flow. This sensation is about allowing and moving into a timeless state.

It is all now. This is not the time to get hung up on the activities of the process, the “doingness” or how of it. Rather, it is a time to hold an idea, observe possibilities, develop the hint of a plan … and then let go.

If you’d like a more detailed explanation of the centering prayer process, www.ContemplativeOutreach.org provides explanations, How-Tos and opportunities to practice this technique with others.

Father Thomas Keating is the founder and spiritual guide of the organization. Additional background information on centering prayer can also be found at www.Integralife.com, website for Integral Life founded by philosopher Ken Wilber.

If you follow up with centering prayer, I hope you enjoy the deep spiritual connection you gain from it. I continue to use this technique. When I look back, I can see how centering prayer contributed to our recovery. It helped calm me, removed fear and helped me to focus. It also helped me get in touch with my Higher Self and the power of my subconscious mind. The end result? We actually improved our lives as we rebuilt.

Susan SheraykoTo Your Success,




Visit Susan’s website TO YOUR SUCCESS to find out more about using your creativity!


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Unlock Your Creativity: Virtual Book Tour

origin_2565021865What is creativity? Isn’t that an interesting and intriguing question? I believe that creativity can be found in many people and in many activities. Some say it’s the use of imagination to create something or produce something. THAT ‘something’ can be anything, starting from certain products on one hand to a lot of ways of expressing our way of ‘Doing Life!’

Today I am exploring how to unlock one’s creativity as part of my virtual Book Tour by visiting the blog Savvy Self Growth of my South African author-friend, Liesel Teversham. You can read there my take on some steps towards living one’s creative sides more fully. Of course, as always, my thoughts are grounded in my understanding of the Three Principles of Mind, Thought, and Consciousness. – Of the four steps announce became five steps, and I am sure everyone who reads this can find yet another step that has helped him or her in unlocking their creative side. Why don’t you hop over and have a read. Don’t be shy to add your step if it isn’t mentioned there! We all can only benefit! See you there 🙂


photo (6)Gudrun is a therapist, author, and life-long explorer of the mysteries of the human mind. She is retiring from mental health and trauma work and has published now her first book Delicious Love Forever.  She is passionate about applying the Principles of Mind, Thought, and Consciousness, as formulated by the late Sydney Banks, not only to her books but also to everyday living situations.