From Dreaming About Writing to Becoming a Published Author

IMG_3649.smallMeet Mary M. Cushnie-Mansour! 

I have met Mary in a writer’s group we both belong to and she was so kind to be interviewed by me about her journey from dreaming about becoming a writer as a young school girl to becoming a seasoned and award-winning author and publisher. She not only talks about her journey, she also gives hands-on helpful down to earth advice for novice AND seasoned writers.

Listen to the first 10 minutes of the interview here:

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and continue with the second part of the interview here:

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Mary talked about her Night’s Vampire Triology. You can check the novels out on Amazon.
If you are curious about her books, short stories, and poetry, go to her website Cavern of Dreams Publishing

Interview: Relationships and the 3 Principles

When you feel passionate about something you probably like to talk about it. Well, I certainly do. So it was a great day for me when Donna K. Fitch, author of ‘Second Death’ interviewed me about writing the book ‘Delicious Love Forever’, what made me write about relationships and combine my understanding of the 3 Principles and recipes.

We had lots of fun – You can listen to the 2-part interview (each about 15 minutes) by clicking on the links below!









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Part 1

Part 2

Caring For Yourself

Caring For Yourself

gudrunfrerichs (1)There is the saying “The bucket stops with you!” This is certainly true when it comes to caring for ourselves. Yes, I admit, it’s wonderful and yummy to be cared for by someone else. Everyone needs that and people don’t seem to prosper when they have nobody in their lives that cares about them. BUT the main carer will always have to be us. Unless we care about ourselves we seem to send out (unconsciously) signals that we are not worth caring about.

I have self-care given a lot of thought lately. Primarily because it is so darn important for our physical and mental well-being. I have actually a book coming out in about 4 weeks that addresses that issue in detail. In the meantime, get a sneak preview in my blog post “Caring for the Self.”  It’s published on my friend Mari Barnes website as part of my virtual blog tour. The great thing about these virtual book tours is that the author gets to ‘see’ a lot of cities one would not be able to visit otherwise. Today it’s Hammond, Indiana, very close to Chicago. I’ll take the opportunity to have a wee look around – thanks to Google and Google map 🙂 So, without further delay, hop over to Mari’s blog and have a look around. She has fantastic articles about self-care that might help you to start / or continue on this important journey.

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5 Great Reasons For Being Curious

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They say “curiosity killed the cat” implying that it wouldn’t be good for you to be curious. Well now, there is a thought in urgent need of updating! If you think about it, throughout the history of mankind, curiosity always led to an advancement of some sort. Without curiosity we might still be living in trees. Who knows?

In a very simplified, black and white way we can divide people into two categories: On one end of the continuum are the close-minded who hold on to their beliefs and opinions, think usually that they are right, they like routine, and resist new ideas and the ‘unknown’. On the other end are the curious, those open to new experiences, the inquisitive, those who are excited by novelty and are bubbling with new ideas.

It’s not hard to see that I am biased towards the curious, isn’t it? So what are the advantages of being curious?

1. In jobs that require innovative approaches, out of the square thinking, a person with a high level of curiosity is just the right person to bring new ideas to the table.

2. Curios people also seem to look into matter deeper than others. They like learning, finding things out, or taking things apart to see how they work. Their passion in learning drives them to get to the bottom of things until their understanding is of exceptional depth.

3. Because curious people have the tendency to dig deeper into issues, they are good at solving puzzles and problem solving. Although getting easily bored with routine, they will stick with a problem until they have satisfied their thirst for discovery.

4. Another advantage of  curious people is the ease with which they deal with uncertainty. They don’t have things to be clear-cut and sorted. They can easily tolerate ambiguity and have little problems seeing things from a different perspective. In fact, they might even know clearly that there always is another perspective. They could have coined the phrase “This is one way of looking at it!” 

5. Most importantly, however, is curiosity in relationships. Yes, I now, it’s a particular bias and interest of mine. But bear with me here. Often couples, groups, or even nations have very distinct ideas and beliefs that may not be shared by ‘the other’ partner, groups, or nations. The close-minded, rigid, righteous might ‘dig’ in and start enforcing their opinion, trying to convince the other that they are wrong, might even judge them for their ‘errant’ way.

For a successful relationship however it is much more helpful to stay curious. Rather than judging and insisting on one’s own point of view, the curious stance is inquiring how the other person came to his/her point of view, what made them think the way they do, what is so important for them about their stance. With an attitude of curiosity we avoid the rigid demarcation line of ‘war fare’, be that in an intimate relationship or among larger groups. We learn about each other and open up the possibility of a more understanding, compassionate relationship and tolerance.

If you are interested to read more about how to have relationships built on the above values, you will find ample ideas and inspirations in my new book “Delicious Love Forever: Recipes for Lasting, Loving Relationships” available on

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A Beautiful Mind

origin_6187834483Ah, I loved that movie. What a moment when it becomes clear that the oddness and social awkwardness is not all there is, but that his mind is perceiving things that are not shared by others. What we forget is that this is true for all of us. The beauty of the movie is to see how he prospers and can find some peace of mind when he realises that his thoughts are NOT TRUE. They don’t reflect reality. What an interesting concept.

I have been invited by Helena Kalivoda to post an article on her website as part of my virtual book tour promoting my new book Delicious Love Forever: Recipes for Lasting Loving Relationships. Thought, and how our thinking can be helping us as well as – often – trip us up, is discussed in my book at length.   Read more here  and have a chat with us! 🙂




Our Thoughts Create Our World

time passAs part of my ‘virtual book tour’ where I introduce my new book Delicious Love Forever: Recipes for Lasting, Loving Relationships, I have written about how thoughts create our world for my friend Linda’s blog.

That our thoughts create our world – like our concept of time for example – is of course not something that I came up with. No. Not at all. Much wiser thinkers than I have known that for thousands of years. – – – In the contrary! For most of my life I have believed that there is a reality out there for us to discover. And even now, knowing that we are the creator of the reality we perceive, it’s hard sometimes to ‘believe my own knowing’. Such is the fallacy of how our personal mind works.  Read more here


Unlock Your Creativity: Virtual Book Tour

origin_2565021865What is creativity? Isn’t that an interesting and intriguing question? I believe that creativity can be found in many people and in many activities. Some say it’s the use of imagination to create something or produce something. THAT ‘something’ can be anything, starting from certain products on one hand to a lot of ways of expressing our way of ‘Doing Life!’

Today I am exploring how to unlock one’s creativity as part of my virtual Book Tour by visiting the blog Savvy Self Growth of my South African author-friend, Liesel Teversham. You can read there my take on some steps towards living one’s creative sides more fully. Of course, as always, my thoughts are grounded in my understanding of the Three Principles of Mind, Thought, and Consciousness. – Of the four steps announce became five steps, and I am sure everyone who reads this can find yet another step that has helped him or her in unlocking their creative side. Why don’t you hop over and have a read. Don’t be shy to add your step if it isn’t mentioned there! We all can only benefit! See you there 🙂


photo (6)Gudrun is a therapist, author, and life-long explorer of the mysteries of the human mind. She is retiring from mental health and trauma work and has published now her first book Delicious Love Forever.  She is passionate about applying the Principles of Mind, Thought, and Consciousness, as formulated by the late Sydney Banks, not only to her books but also to everyday living situations.



Delicious Love Forever: Recipes for Lasting Loving Relationships

photo (3)The need to love and be loved seems to be in our DNA. Yet many people struggle to have lasting loving relationships. They find they don’t get along as well as they had at the beginning of the relationship; character traits undetected earlier raised their ugly head. People go into attacking mode to defend themselves. Others close down or run for the hills.

The book I have written is now available on Amazon for $4.99 and you can order the kindle version here. The paperback will take another 10 to 14 days to be available. It will be quite a bit dearer due to the printing costs and postage. But I digress! Continue reading “Delicious Love Forever: Recipes for Lasting Loving Relationships”